I’ve had a lot of sex (by most people’s standards), with different partners and for various reasons. One of the things I’ve learned, looking back, is that I’ve had the best sex with the guys that I was most attracted to.
Great sex, for me, has not been about how big the guys dick was, how experienced/inexperienced he was (one of my top five had only been with one other girl before me) or the various positions he uses. It has all come down to attraction.
It kinda makes sense though, doesn’t it? If I am very attracted to someone I will look at all the positives of the experience in an even greater light and virtually ignore the negatives. If I am less attracted, the negatives will stand out more than whatever positives I may have experienced.
Also, I put forth more effort in creating a positive situation if I am attracted to the guy (and want to keep him around). If I’m not attracted to him then I find myself in a “I’ll just lay here until he gets it over with” mindset. Laying there like a dead fish does not equal good sex.
Wait a minute! Shouldn’t I be attracted to the guys I’m having sex with in the first place? That would only make sense but I don’t operate on the basis of making sense.
I’ve hooked up with guys for a variety of reasons but it all boils down to this-you can’t really know someone until you spend quite a bit of time with them. So there have been plenty of guys that I’ve thought I’ve liked but realized, after spending time with them, that I didn’t. (There was one guy, for example, that I found out was married. And had four kids.)
There is more to attraction (I think for most women anyway, it may be different for guys) than just finding someone physically appealing. I rarely even look at guys and think “he’s hot”. I am way more likely to look at a guy and think that he’s ugly. Most people I just kinda feel blah about, it could go either way and this is where attraction becomes more than just physical.
Generally I have to actually speak to a guy to determine whether I’m actually attracted to him or not. The guy either gains or loses attraction points based on what comes out of his mouth. The points go up and down as time goes by for days, weeks, months and years.
I’ve been with guys that were physically less attractive than others that I had been with but they made up for it by being more socially and mentally attractive. These less attractive guys (physically speaking) were better in bed, in my books anyway.
So the whole point of this is to say, in connection to my last post, that his 8 inch dick doesn’t matter to me if I can’t have a conversation with him. His 8 inch dick won’t keep me interested, for long anyway.
